Blog — Khayra Bundakji | خيرة بندقجي

My biggest strength is being a fixer, a coach, and to do it with a determination to see it through to the end.

Attendees and students of 100% — A Life Approach will recognize the shadow of this habit: Being a rescuer in a drama triangle. It leads me to be insensitive, because I’m passionate about fixing instead of empathizing with compassion.

And now my biggest challenge to really embody the celebration I urge my clients to experience is to take time to focus on myself. Self-care for me is to get in touch with my needs, which ignoring always leaves me resentful as a persecutor (Drama Triangle reference). Self-care for me is to get in touch with reality, which ignoring by overworking leaves me confused as a victim (Drama Triangle reference).

Appearance: HSE Feature with Personal Branding Coach, Khayra Bundakji - Business Miracles

Things I didn’t mention by numbers in the podcast (I wasn’t ready).

I started giving personal branding consultations in Sep 2018. It left me empty because I was charging 200sr/hr AND there was no way for me implement sustainable habits in my clients.

Now I’ve gone into my own business full time (since January 2020), not for the entrepreneur trend, but because I recognize my highly sensitive nature needs at the beginning & end of the day. I need time to reflect and enter the day, and time to wind down my nerves and reflect at night. I’m at 100% capacity in my practice, my lowest sales month was 2,300sr (after prepping to live in savings for 8 months!) and my highest was 22,500sr.

I’ve never been here before.

My relationship with the unknown is very known by all who know me. My organization, talks on anxiety, habits of analysis paralysis, and my bucket list all indicate the unknown scares the daylights out of me. And here’s the biggest unknown yet.

Let’s Meet Up?

I’ll be traveling to region to give talks, work for clients, and hopefully meet you! Check out my calendar on the events page www.khayrab.com/events

The role of feminism in supporting men to be whole humans

Women in Saudi (as we have heard time and time again) had been stopped (again and again) from pursuing their ambition. Some by accident and some on purpose. However, Khayra believes not only women suffer in a patriarchy. Expecting specific output from 50% of the population based on gender alone stops everyone from being their full selves.

Why I Don't Have a Bucket List

In the spirit of practicality, I get honest and admit how I set up goals, which was met with scoffing. Finally, I admitted it. The joy and euphoria I get when I am safe and doing daily activities is all the bucket-listing I need. What I didn't offer is the reason of this joy. This is an instance where withholding information does feel like lying.

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